Volume 32 Number 51

The Healthy Family

We all want to improve our families, but many are not sure how to do that. Research has proven that there are several areas in which we must focus our attention to help prevent the breaking up of our homes. By studying the common characteristics shared by successful families, you can better understand how to strengthen your own family. The following list contains the most important traits of the healthy family. By strengthening these areas in your own family, you will improve relationships and increase your chances of a stable home.

Communicating This is the most important quality that must be developed. Get to know one another by talking and listening. Learn to respond rather than react. Use family meal time for conversation between all members of the family.  (Ephesians 4:31-32)

Affirming and Supporting All family members must express appreciation for and give praise to one another. Do not pressure with unrealistic expectations.  (I Thessalonians 5:11)

Respecting Others  Start with respect for self, then learn to respect individual differences within the family. Learn to live with one another. (Respect is not the same as approval.)  (Hebrews 12:9)

Trusting This must begin with parents who trust each other deeply. Give children opportunities to earn trust, and let them learn to accept responsibility for their own behavior.  (Psalms 20:7)

Sharing Time  Lack of time and energy is your family’s worst enemy. Develop a sense of play and humor. Learn to balance private time and collective leisure time. Prioritize your activities and make time for one another.  (Deuteronomy 11:19; Heb. 10:24-25)

Fostering Responsibility  Exhibit a sense of shared responsibility. As children grow, gradually give them more responsibility. This means more than doing chores, and does not necessarily mean orderliness and perfection. The consequences of irresponsibility are valuable lessons.  (Romans 14:11-12)

Teaching Morals  Parents need to teach clear and specific guidelines about right and wrong. Each family has different values, but the parents should agree on values they consider important. Avoid inconsistency between example and teaching.  (Proverbs 22:6)

Enjoying Traditions  Family rituals and traditions give us a sense of stability and a sense of belonging.  (Leviticus 23; Exodus 12:26-27)

Respecting Privacy  Respect the right to be alone, to be different, and to change. Have more mutually negotiated rules as children mature.  (Matthew 6:6)

Valuing Service  Serve others, whether inside or outside of your family. Be responsive to others’ needs. Keep volunteer time under control.  (Acts 20:35)

Getting Help  Even the best families have problems. Seek help in the early stages of a problem. Not all problems can be solved within the family. When necessary, seek professional assistance.  (James 1:2-4)

It must be emphasized that every member of the family has to work toward improving relationships and strengthening the family. It is not solely the mother’s responsibility. As the family improves, so will society in general. No matter how healthy your family is, we know you want to make it even better.

For additional information on this subject we highly recommend the book Traits of a Healthy Family, by Dolores Curran, 1983, Winston Press, Minneapolis.

News & Notes

PLACED MEMBERSHIP:  Tom and Dianne Collier placed membership Sunday morning.  Welcome to Grandview!

Tom & Dianne Collier
3532 47th Street
Des Moines, IA  50310
Home phone: 276-4726
cell: 717-449-3374
Tom’s email: tjcollier@yahoo.com
Dianne’s email: diannecollier@yahoo.com.

POUNDING:  Michael Watson and Stephanie Pounders will be getting married during the holiday. When they return we would like to give them a pounding to help stock their pantry.   If anyone would be interested in helping please contact Donna Bailey.

To the family  at Grandview, Bob and I can’t thank you enough for the love and support you have given Tim & Dora. The wedding was beautiful and made possible by the hard work of so many of you! It is a blessing and a comfort to know that Dora has such a strong church family in Des Moines.  Thank you!!  Bob & Carol Crocker

NEW  YEARS EVE:  Come to the building at about 8:00 pm and bring a snack and a favorite game and spend time ringing in the New Year.

PAST MEMBER NEWS:  Please share your holiday news from former Grandview members on the bulletin board in the Commons. Cards, newsletters and photos are most welcome. If possible, post their address so others can reconnect with them. Plan to spend a few minutes at the board catching up with loved ones:)

Charles Cobb, brother of Dean Cobb, went home to be with the Lord on Thursday morning. The visitation will be at the Prugh-Dunfee Funeral Home, 200 So. Front St., Grant City, MO, on Sunday evening from 6:00-8:00 pm.  The funeral will be Monday morning at 10:30, also at Prugh-Dunfee. Burial will be at the Rose Hill Cemetery in Blockton. A meal will be served  at the Community Building in Blockton after the burial. Please see Art Wallis for further information.


David & Jan Smith
Kelsey , Olivia
306 N Kansas Ave
Chanute, KS 66720
Phone: 620-431-4099

Prayer Requests

Debbie Nieves’ grandmother passed today due to a longstanding health problems.  She was 91.  She was a sister in Christ her whole life and without question is going to a better place.  Debbie is leaving tomorrow to Texas to meet her brother and they will drive to New Mexico were the funeral will be held on Tuesday.  Please remember Debbie’s family in your prayers.

Brian Hiskey asks for prayers for the family of Dan Wright a high school friend.  Dan was into drugs in high school but had become a successful business owner and a great friend.  He passed away from a drug overdose. His family can use all the prayers they can get.  Thank you very much,  Brian Hiskey

Shane Siegle’s sister, Cherrie Hubbard has now learned her cancer has spread to her bones.

Please pray for Deb Kuper, Chad Kuper and the children.

Brian Hiskey’s friend, Jeff Ward has received word that his turmor has spread to his brain.

Anne Ogle’s grandfather, Earnest Kughl, is still in the hospital. They were unable to operate on his leg and his health is rapidly deteriorating.

Galen Duckstein’s father is doing better and is in a nursing facility. Please continue to pray for the family during this time as they deal with continuing conflicts that have arisen.

Brian Hiskey’s grandmother was hospitalized with heart palpitations they are not sure what is causing the difficulty; his friend Jaylee decided to abort her baby. She has a court appointment were she will have her remaining child taken away from her. She is 16 years old; and pray for his co-worker Mike as he has been temporarily laid off from work and he usually handles these situations poorly.  Dot, Beth and Jeannie’s step-mother has wide spread cancer in the abdomen but  will be on medication.

Clint Mongan is now recovering at home.

Elaine’s daughter Jennifer that has Fifth disease.

Pray for our nation and all the challenges facing it.

Dan Nitz, Marnie Walker’s father for chest pains.

Those looking for employment:  David and Frank Colton, Floyd West (Susie Easter’s brother), Kyle and Deborah Wallis, Michelle Parker (Potter’s daughter).

Martha Winkelman’s (a friend of Phyllis Mort) cancer has spread throughout her body.

Ronnie Harrison’s sister, Sharon, is doing better but still struggling with her appetite.

Nick Lacina who has leukemia and worships at the Center Street Church of Christ in Marshalltown.

Expectant mothers:  Sarah Mongan, Dawn White, Dora Bailey, Anne Ogle

Missions:  Richardsons; Emilee Flaherty – medical missions in Zambia; Bob and Marla Housby—Italy

Mike Mazak will be medically discharged from the service in approximately 3 months.

Caleb Guillo: After lots of tests including an echocardiogram and lung function, the Mayo Clinic pulmonologist determined that our son’s otherwise good health and the positive outcomes of his previous lung collapses (pneumothoraxes) bode well for him in the future.  We will continue to monitor his condition and consult with the doctors.  All the prayers have been greatly appreciated.

Jim Mort had cataract surgery on the 21st of December.

Sharing Religion  The potential for satisfying family relationships is far greater among religiously oriented families than among those who do not share a faith. Worship together regularly. Pass on the faith in positive and meaningful ways.  (Ephesians 6:4; Deuteronomy 6:4-9)

Marnie Walker and the girls in Des Moines with the house for sale while Philip is in Alabama.

Josh White (son-in-law of a member of the church in Council Bluffs) had a stroke and is in Mercy hospital. Additionally, his family has requested prayers that both he and his wife Kaylla come to the decision to be restored in their relationship with God. They are living in Ankeny.

Calendar of Events

  • Dec 31 – New Years Eve Get Together
  • Jan 3 – AM Potluck
  • Jan 22 – All Church Birthday Party!
  • Feb 20 – Jess Mort and Jerod Flaherty wedding

End of this issue.